It is kind of cheating to include
Buwei Yang Chao here—she spent only a few years of her life in Japan, and didn’t think much of it when she was there—but I really can’t resist. She was born in 1889 in a cultured, well-to-do family in Nanjing, and had numerous childhood names, Lanxian, Chuandi, and finally Yunqing; she was unofficially raised and educated as a boy for most of her childhood. In 1904 she was sent to the Lüning School for Girls, where she made friends, learned to play the piano, and went to parties with boys. In 1908, after a win on the lottery, she entered the
McTyeire School in Shanghai and learned to speak (some) English. At twenty she took steps to break her childhood engagement to a cousin, achieving success by getting her grandfather on her side.
Yunqing spent the 1911 Revolution in Shanghai with her schoolfriend Lin Guanhong, who died of scarlet fever in the same year, leaving Yunqing with the nickname “Buwei,” which she adopted from then on as her name. A year later, through family connections, she was made principal of a vocational school for girls, where apart from supervising their education she drove away ghosts and mutinous soldiers.
In 1913 Buwei arrived in Japan, where she began to study medicine, focusing reluctantly on gynecology and obstetrics (at the school run by
Yoshioka Yayoi and her husband) in a language she could read but not speak, facing assorted prejudice against Chinese. Qualified by 1919, she returned to China upon the death of her father. She and a friend opened a hospital in Beijing (Beiping) where she delivered numerous babies, lost her mother, and met the cousin of a friend of a friend,
Chao Yuenren, a penniless student who had just returned from America. After a series of mutual misunderstandings and circumlocutions, they were married in 1921, a revolutionary wedding without a traditional ceremony.
They took a “honeymoon” in America, where Yuenren studied at Harvard, and their daughters Iris (Rulan) and Nova (Xinna) shortly arrived. (Yuenren had been Bertrand Russell’s interpreter upon the latter’s visit to China in 1920; when he informed Russell of the births of their daughters, he received a letter saying “Congratulations! Now you are among the causes of the present Chaos in China,” the kind of pun Yuenren adored.) In 1924 they returned to China, via a year in Europe; Yuanren taught linguistics at Tsinghua University and Buwei ran a birth control clinic. Lensey (Laisi) was born in 1929 in Nanjing, and Bella (Xiaozhong) the following year. As Japan encroached on Chinese territory, they returned to the US, lived in Washington for a while, went back to China again, and became internal refugees, fleeing to Changsha and then to mountainous Kunming. In 1938 they left for Hawaii, and then eventually settled in New Haven where Yuenren taught at Yale and Buwei wrote a Chinese cookbook, translated—like her autobiography—humorously by her husband, along with their oldest daughter. All four daughters had successful careers:
Rulan, a polymath like her parents, was an ethnomusicologist, Xinna (the only one of the four to return to China to live) a professor of chemistry,
Lensey (using her husband’s name, Namioka) a children’s author, and Bella a physicist.
Buwei died in 1981. Of herself, at the head of her autobiography, she wrote “I am a woman with an unusual experience. I had four parents. I broke my engagement at a time when engagements were never broken. I was principal of a school before I went to college. I joined revolutions and took refuge from wars. I healed grownups and brought a few hundred children into the world. When I was married, I was married without a wedding. …But, above all, I am myself and not somebody else. I am five feet one and not five feet four, though I wouldn’t mind if I were. I was once ninety pounds and wished I were a hundred twenty; now I am a hundred thirty-five pounds and still wish the same. …I eat what I like. …I have the voice of a second alto. When I say “Hello” over the telephone and the other party says “May I speak to
Mrs. Chao?” I say “This
is Mrs. Chao.” My voice carries well. When I argue with someone, and our reasons are equally good, I usually win. … I like to move; I like to act. …I want to do things just for the fun of doing them. There is too much to do in the world to sit around and waste your time.”
Sources
https://read01.com/OADya45.html (Chinese) Pictures of Buwei with her family at various ages